her wings at age 61
Nancy Cosgriff, M.A
I spent an afternoon in the local
coffee shop listening to my friend Elaine’s story and came away
inspired and amazed at the energy and purpose evident in her life.
A true “Third Ager,” Elaine fills the criteria by having had
61 birthdays, “retiring” from inside the corporate world at age 55
after 30 years and reinventing herself and her work.
Elaine had been the director of
leadership and organizational effectiveness in a large multinational
organization. Even in her
early 50’s, she was still steeped in that world and the contribution
she felt she was making. Elaine
told me how she felt she always had one more project that needed her.
Thus, she could never leave, even though at times it felt
stifling to her. Then a
company assignment in Asia introduced her to other cultures and
She began to see that she could
create meaningful work outside of the corporate world as well.
So at age 55, she decided to give up her excuses, spread her
wings and start her own company. Elaine
was no longer driven by corporate rewards and reinforcements such as
high salary and high performance, or by the mantra of “gotta produce
and make money.” She said
it felt like a leap into total freedom – like leaving home and not
having to report into her parents anymore!
But what to do now?
Elaine believed that she was the arbiter of her own destiny, that
she could carve what she wanted for her life and work. She also believed that she needed time to unhook from the
corporate world and rediscover her own sense of being and who she was in
the larger world. So she
spent one year “cocooning,” plunging into questions about working
meaningfully until she was well into her 70’s.
During this time she completed a credible coaching certification
program and focused on her own spiritual direction.
She noticed that when she let go
and trusted, rather than tried to control how her work took shape,
offers that spoke to her came along.
Her key learnings at this time were about her need to balance
being and doing and that her work wasn’t about “fixing people.”
After a year, Elaine started her
own consulting business with a focus on leadership development.
She says that she is only interested in working with people or
teams who are really serious about change and transformation. She’s also teaching at a local college and spends one month
each year in a global service project in the Yucatan, China or India.
And now, after 6 years on her own, she’s involved in a start-up
organization focused on caring for caretakers in other countries – to
provide coaching and consulting based on their needs.
Elaine is living out her core
values: freedom, service to others, deep spiritual connections,
self-awareness and growth in body and soul, and developing and nurturing
strong relationships. She has 3 sons and 5 grand daughters and she wants very much
to help her grand daughters value their place as women in the world.
Elaine says that her life and work are together, not separate.
Work is play for her. She
enjoys it and it gives her energy.
Her parting words to me about her attitude at age 61 were:
“I’m keeping all of my doors open!”
By Nancy Cosgriff,M.A.
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Cosgriff is a coach, consultant and trainer and a member of The Center for
Third Age Leadership.